Memories and Laughing Doors

Here’s a couple of thoughts for the day or for the rest of your life:

Everyone needs his memories. They keep the wolf of insignificance from the door.’ (Saul Bellow)

The Red Door

And how about this:

If you are going to be able to look back on something and laugh about it, you might as well laugh about it now. (Marie Osmond)

Go on, make a few memories TODAY!


101 Ways to Cope with Losing Elderly Parents # 5

I think that the seeds for coping with the loss of elderly parents are sown way back before frailty or death occur and this generally happens in a subconscious way.  For me, one of the many things that softens the sadness is seeing the blossoming of shrubs and flowers that I planted with my parents in happy times.

A typical example of this is the camellia which is currently in full bloom in my back garden and which Father and I planted together after a trip to our local garden centre and a drive round by Dunmore East where we stopped off for coffee and a chat.

Seeing the camellia now brings me back to a time when Father was in the great health and is completely dissociated with any of the more difficult memories of his declining years.

So seize all the opportunities you can when your parents are well to plant these memories and, if that time has passed, identify a few things or thoughts that relate to those earlier times as they can be very sustaining when pangs of sadness strike.

I’d love to hear what items or thoughts are ‘special’ for YOU in this context.

Making Memories ~ Gatherings from Ireland # 205

Lovers' Walk, Newtown, Tramore, Co. Waterford
Lovers’ Walk, Newtown, Tramore, Co. Waterford

Lovers’ Walk out by Newtown Wood here in Tramore is a place where voices echo because of the overhanging trees ~ trees that touch in the middle of the road like lovers holding hands.

Yesterday, there was a young couple out there with two children. The father was pushing a buggy in which I caught a glimpse of a baby with a pink bonnet. The mother was walking at pace trying to keep up with a little boy of three, at most, who was talking excitedly about a dog that was barking somewhere deep in the wood.

I had just passed them and was getting into my car when one of those unforgettable moments unfolded.  Both parents could obviously see that the little boy was bursting to go down the wood and just as they started to decide what they were going to do, I saw the father and son meet each other’s gaze out of sight of the mother and baby sister. The father signalled to the little guy in blue shorts to go on down the wood and then got further into negotiation with the mother about the detour.

‘Oh, we’ll just go down to the little bridge,’ he said with as much excitement in his voice as was on the boy’s face.

 Okay, but don’t stay down there too long, not like the last time.’ replied the mother as there was a quick exchange in which she took buggy with the crying baby and handed him the little boy’s tiny scooter.

The baby’s crying stopped as mother and daughter walked on with the mother talking animatedly about the now rustling of the still invisible dog.

Father and son ran together down the wood, laughing and talking about throwing sticks from  the bridge into the little stream that meets the sea at the bottom of the wood.

Every instinct told me that the father, just like me, had happy, happy memories of his own childhood days watching the stream carry the twigs under the bridge to start a whole new journey.

Newtown Wood, Tramore, Co. Waterford
Newtown Wood, Tramore, Co. Waterford