The Other Side of Valentine’s Day

I am one of the fortunate ones who has a caring, loving Valentine. He’s not into Valentine’s Day but that matters not as I am well used to it now and know that he has a heart of gold and cares more about me than I could ever fully know.

But, today my heart is breaking for all those people who, for whatever, reason are trying to scramble through this day in a world that feels empty and lonely because the love of their life is no longer with them.

I think especially of older couples who have been ripped apart by Covid19 after years of togetherness or young lovers whose imagined futures have been cut short by the death of one of them from Covid or some other illness or tragedy.

Days like this can be incredibly difficult when there is an assumption that love is in the air for all when, in fact, it feels like it has been replaced by an abyss of sadness.

I suspect most of us have known Valentine’s Days like that but they can be all too easy to cast into the background. However, we need to be especially cognisant that love can bring agony as well as ecstasy and much in between and none of us knows how the dice will fall.

I just hope that those who are feeling lonely today have a treasure trove of memories to draw upon that can sustain them and that they can see even a tiny glimmer of light for the the future.

Let none of us be complacent and let all of us be empathetic.

Author: socialbridge

I am a sociologist and writer from Ireland. I have worked as a social researcher for 30 years and have had a lifelong passion for writing. My main research interests relate to health care and sense of place.

23 thoughts on “The Other Side of Valentine’s Day”

      1. Yes! I grew up with his wife in Iowa. I actually hitchhiked from Virginia to Pennsylvania for her brother’s wedding in the 60’s. He also died of cancer complications 10 years ago.

  1. agreed..this can be a very lonely time for many. I often hear some complaining about having to see all the couples happy pics and valentines day wishes on social media. So i am careful never to post about it. On the other hand i do feel it’s a bit disheartening to feel ‘guilty’ for being a couple simply because others aren’t in a relationship..kind of a catch-22. I just do what i can to be considerate all around.

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