Nature, Nurture or Coincidence

We’re an old-fashioned family in that we still send each other Christmas cards ~ I mean Big Sis, Big Bro and me.

Big Bro’s card arrived first with the handwriting that doesn’t seem to have changed since he was about seven. His cards are always a bit different and he doesn’t do ‘sentimental.’

This is the one he chose to send me this year:


I thought to myself how typical this was of Big Bro as he’s into bikes and I found myself thinking of all the cycles we went on when we were kids and the way he’d be play-acting around as he rode off ahead of me  …..

A few days later, Big Sis’s parcel arrived and I thought I  had developed double vision when I saw the exact same card spilling out of the padded envelope.

I’ve been looking at the cards on the mantle piece and keep wondering what the chances were that they would both pick the same card ~ albeit they were for different charities.

You’d be surprised where ponderings on such matters can bring one. I started looking up stuff about coincidences, nature, nurture, grown-up children, Santa, siblings … and then just let my mind do its own thing.

What a mish-mash of memories: Dad’s party trick of cycling backwards; my sense of burning anticipation of Big Sis and Big Bro coming home from boarding school for Christmas and us playing cards in front of the blazing fire; the fights over what records we would play; the year of the Big Snow when we lived in the Midlands and all the lakes were frozen over and people riding bikes across them; board games, especially, Snakes and Ladders, and the sound of the dice rattling around in the little plastic cup …

I doubt I’ll ever get to the bottom of it but that doesn’t matter. What matters is that we are still entwined and have such shared history:

Big Sis and Big Bro in Cahoots : Photo by Frank Tubridy




Author: socialbridge

I am a sociologist and writer from Ireland. I have worked as a social researcher for 30 years and have had a lifelong passion for writing. My main research interests relate to health care and I love to write both non-fiction and poetry.

26 thoughts on “Nature, Nurture or Coincidence”

  1. I like the “whimsical side” of Santa..Speaking of receiving two exact cards…this happen to us this year too..our daughter and my neice sent the same one…

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