I came across this list-to-self which I wrote not long after my father died in 2010. It has served me well and I hope it can be of some use to at least one other person in the whole world who is struggling to cope with the death of a loved one.
I would be delighted with additions to the list, if you feel you can contribute.
Finding Solace in the Face of Grief
- Read Wordsworth’s Poem, The Daffodils.
- Look at Monet’s paintings
- Listen to music
- Go for a walk
- Think of your happiest childhood memory
- Close your eyes and imagine you feel a purple butterfly land on your shoulder
- Eat a passion fruit
- Go for a swim in the ocean
- Listen to the birds at dawn
- Watch a river gliding under a bridge
- Make a list of your favourite movies
- Write a list of the 10 people whom you admire most and why
- Sow some seeds to give promise of colour
- Plant a scented shrub in the garden
- See the love in a dog’s eyes when you pet him or her
- Have a bath with a few drops of lavender oil
- Feel a handmade chocolate melt in your mouth
- Read a book of Humorous Quotations
- Write about a happy time spent with the person who has died
- Share your feelings with someone who truly cares about you.