First Moment People

Rosa 'Remember Me.'
Rosa ‘Remember Me.’

Some of the most precious memories I have relate to first meetings with people who have been incredibly significant in my life. It always seems like an added bonus to have vivid recall of the very first moment of meeting the eyes of such a person, seeing their smile or feeling their touch.

How can we ever know that a person will go on to play a key role in our lives? I don’t have any scientific answers for this but I’ve certainly had some first meetings that have pierced my soul and have seemed determined to carve themselves on my memory.

Because of my fascination with first moments, I’ve long loved this poem:

I Wish I Could Remember that First Day

Christina Rossetti

I wish I could remember that first day,
    First hour, first moment of your meeting me,
    If bright or dim the season, it might be
Summer or Winter for aught I can say;
So unrecorded did it slip away,
    So blind was I to see and to foresee,
    So dull to mark the budding of my tree
That would not blossom yet for many a May.
If only I could recollect it, such
    A day of days! I let it come and go
    As traceless as a thaw of bygone snow;
It seemed to mean so little, meant so much;
If only now I could recall that touch,
    First touch of hand in hand – Did one but know!

Are you a ‘First Moment’ Person?


Author: socialbridge

I am a sociologist and writer from Ireland. I have worked as a social researcher for 30 years and have had a lifelong passion for writing. My main research interests relate to health care and sense of place.

19 thoughts on “First Moment People”

    1. Hi Sue, I can’t get my head around it totally because there are a few that have slipped through and I definitely ‘didn’t know.’ But, generally speaking, the vibes in the ones that truly matter are very strong from the off.

  1. IWe come into one and others’ lives for a reason..sometimes just to be there at a special moment if needed then to move on. Some relationships lasting longer than others.

    1. Joni, I’m never sure about ‘things happening for a reason,’ but I agree that some relationships are more transitory than others and that that can be perfectly fine with both parties. It’s always nice, though, to be able to pick up again with people who were once significant, even if only for a while.

  2. The cool thing is, that with this insight we can tune into each day from now on. Being ready for these moments and really being present to what is happening opens up a new awareness.
    thank you Jean for bringing this to my attention! xo

  3. Interesting question Jean. I have some memories of first encounters that are as bright in my mind as if they happened a moment ago. In other cases important people seem to fade into my life, and it feels as if I have always known them and cannot remember the first time we met. Occasionally there is a loud spiritual “Thunk” when I meet someone, a piece of truth snaps into place in my head, and I suddenly understand the world a bit better ad clearer than I did. Those I remember. That said, not everyone who will be important enters my life that way.

  4. “How can we ever know that a person will go on to play a key role in our lives?” I’ve often wondered the same thing, Jean. Thought provoking post and lovely poem…have a great weekend!

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